Ask what helps now - hear them out - offer a walk, food, or help to book care....

https://bizzmarkblog.com/what-should-i-say-when-my-brother-keeps-skipping-family-gatherings/

Ask what helps now - hear them out - offer a walk, food, or help to book care. Say I can sit with you while you call. Set kind limits. You can care and rest. Check in soon. Trust may take more than one talk. Keep showing up - do not fix it all.